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Awana

 

Awana reaches children for Christ through fun, Scripture-rich experiences that lead children to know, love and serve Him. Expect exciting games, Scripture-based memory work, thrilling stories and awesome awards that help children develop lifelong faith in Christ. Our clubs include Cubbies, Sparks and T&T which are for ages pre-school – 5th grade. Visitors are welcome any time.

If you have questions about Awana or want to volunteer, contact Kay Bonikowsky at kbonikowsky@gmail.com.

Vacation Bible School 2017

The dates for VBS 2017 are August 7 - 10, 2017, 10:30 AM to 2:30 PM

MrJ and his band will be joining us again to lead us in a time of singing, Bible time and Western adventure.

Registration will begin May 1, 2017.  More details to come.

Questions? Contact Martha Clay, Westminster's Elementary Director, at marthac@westminster.org.

Children's Weekly Newsletter - 9.20.17

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September 20, 2017

 

NEWS FOR PARENTS OF CHILDREN BIRTH TO 5TH GRADE

 

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Awana – Wednesday Nights, 6:30-8:00 pm, September 13 – May 2

 

Cubbies and T&T started last week, Sparks starts tonight!

We hope that you will join us as Awana reaches children for Christ through fun, Scripture-rich experiences that lead children to know, love and serve Him. Expect exciting games, Scripture-based memory work, thrilling stories and awesome awards that help children develop lifelong faith in Christ. Our clubs include Cubbies, Sparks and T&T which are for ages pre-school – 5th grade. Visitors are welcome any time.

If you have questions about Awana or want to volunteer, contact Kay Bonikowsky at kbonikowsky@gmail.com.

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JOIN OUR VOLUNTEER FAMILY!

 

Fall is here and we have the following opportunities for volunteers to step in and bless the children at Westminster.

  • Nursery volunteers – weekly, bi-weekly or monthly – both services
  • 2 year olds class teacher and assistants – weekly or bi-weekly – both services
  • Preschool classroom assistants – weekly, bi-weekly or monthly – both services
  • Kindergarten Class Teacher - weekly or bi-weekly – 10:45 service
  • 1st – 3rd grade class assistants – weekly, bi-weekly or monthly – 9:00 service
  • 2nd and 3rd grade class teachers and assistants – bi-weekly – 9:00 service
  • The Bridge small group leaders – weekly or bi-weekly – 9:00 service
  • 10:45 Elementary small group leaders – bi-weekly – 10:45
  • Awana Leaders – Wednesday evenings - 6:15 to 8:15 PM

 

Questions?  Contact Kjirsten Davies, our Early Life Director (birth to K), at kjirstend@westminster.org or Martha Clay, our Elementary Director (1st to 5th grades), at marthac@westminster.org.

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CHILDREN’S CHOIR | Sundays October 1 – February 11, 10:15-10:45 AM, Room 105

 

Join us starting October 1! 

 

All 1st-5th graders are invited to join our Children’s Choir that meets on Sunday mornings between services, 10:15 – 10:45 AM, in room 105. Children’s Choir will learn fun songs and share them with the congregation occasionally.  Join today!  Questions? Contact Martha at marthac@westminster.org.  

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JOIN A GROW GROUP – Sunday mornings, 9:00 & 10:45 AM

 

Grow Sunday was last week and we were encouraged to connect with each other.  One of those ways is Grow Groups.  There are a few Grow Groups that meet on Sunday mornings that are for parents.

 

  • Grace Based Families – 9:00 AM, Room 310, 1st & 3rd Sundays - A group of young families who desire to strengthen marriages and families through Biblical principles and community.  Contact: Chris & Sandy Long
  • Influential Parenting – 9:00 AM, Room 307, Weekly - Would you like to know how to love your spouse, kids, and friends better? Join our discussions centered around the book, “How We Love”. Contact: Kandi Dodrill
  • Young Marrieds and Families Group – 10:45 AM, Room 310, 1st & 3rd Sundays – A group of young married couples and families who strive to be loving and inclusive as we grow in God’s Word.  Contact:  Sam & Allison Fetchero

There are many other Grow Groups that meet during the week. You can learn more at www.westminster.org/GROW-GROUPS.  

 

We also offer Alpha, Mentoring, and Serve Teams as ways to connect and grow at Westminster.  Wondering where you fit in, take a survey at www.westminster.org/fit to find out.

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MOMMY AND ME PLAYTIME! –Friday, October 6, 10:00 – 11:30 AM, GYM

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Fun and free playtime for moms and their young children to play in the gym on the first Friday of every month.  This is a great opportunity for moms to meet with other moms and let their kids have fun!  10:00 to 11:30 AM in the gym.  Our first playtime this fall is Friday, October 6.  For more information contact Kjirsten at kjirstend@westminster.org.

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ELEMENTARY MINISTRY POTLUCK & PARENT MEETINGSunday, October 15, 2017, 12:15 – 1:30 PM

 

IN THE HIGH SCHOOL ROOM (UNDER THE COMMUNITY LIFE CENTER)

 

Come meet other families and share a meal together.  Bring a main dish or salad to share.  Your whole family is welcome. Hear about some of the goals for this year, curriculum, and opportunities to be involved. For more information, contact Martha Clay at marthac@westminster.org.

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  • September 20           Awana First Night for Sparks, 6:30-8:00 PM
  • October 1                    Children’s Choir begins, 10:15-10:45 AM, Room 105
  • October 6                    Mommy & Me Playtime, 10:00 – 11:30 AM, Gym
  • October 15                  Elementary Ministry Potluck & Parent Meeting, 12:15 – 1:30 PM, HS Room
  • October 27                  Parent Connect, 6-9 PM
  • December 3               Children’s Ministry Christmas Party (Potluck), 12:15-1:30 PM, HS Room

 

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Mentoree

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Welcome!


We are so glad you are considering the idea of finding a Mentor. God never intended for anyone to manage this world as rugged individuals. Rather, we were created for community. And not just community for communities sake, but the kind of community that is intentional. We need community to identify our blind spots as well as provide a context to put down our masks. We need to be heard at times and at other times to hear others. Mentoring relationships are those relationships where we can look up from the immediate demands of life and see God's overall purpose and meaning.

Here is a short video to help you get started:

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Understanding Your Shape as a Mentoree

This year we will be expanding on our support of you as a mentor by helping you to explore how God has uniquely designed you. For if you understand who God made you to be,  you will be better prepared in helping others to discover who God made them to be.  Saddleback Church helped to consolidate some of the keys aspects of the individual in this easy to remember acronym, S.H.A.P.E.

    Spiritual Gifts

    Heart Desires

    Abilities

    Personality

    Experiences

In the next few months we will be helping you to acquire a better understanding of each of these key areas so that you can fulfill your role as mentor with confidence and a sense of God given purpose.

And along the way, if we find a good article or video on mentoring, we will make it available in through resource pages and blogs. We want to encourage the teachable spirit that will one day prepare you to mentor mentors.

Click the following links below to download your own Shape for Life Profile Worksheet and Shape for Spiritual Gifts.

        Understanding my S.H.A.P.E.   

        SHAPE for Life Profile                   

        SHAPE Spiritual Gifts - October

        SHAPE Heart & Abilities - November

        SHAPE_Personality-Experiences - December

        Experiences Worksheet

        Abilities - Love It Like It[2]

        Spiritual Gift Assessment

        

 

Would you like us to help you get going on finding a Mentor? Click here!

 

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Challenge: Setting Goals

Goal Setting 101:  S.M.A.R.T. Goals

How do we make the mentoring relationship intentional? Through your time together God may reveal through a resonating sense in your heart that there is a specific area you should focus on in this season with this Mentor. Here is a short video that helps to take that undefined feeling and organize it into action steps so that we move from inspirational goals to actual results!

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Challenge: Inner Healing

This is a beautiful article that I think captures what the journey of mentoring can lead to as another voice helps us to bring our inner struggles honestly before God. The mentor, in this case a counselor, gave Esther permission to be honest with God by assigning her to record her laments to God...

A Surprising Path to My Healing

by Esther Fleece

January 10, 2017

 

 

I left my counseling session feeling defeated. My normal afternoon run was replaced with lying in bed and staring at the ceiling. I couldn’t see God’s kindness in letting me find out things about my past that were even more painful than what I already knew. I wanted nothing to do with any of it.

“Blessed are those who mourn . . .”? (Matthew 5:4).

“Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness . . .”? (Matthew 5:10).

I didn’t know if I wanted God’s “blessings” anymore. His “favor” was scaring me.

Something had to change about my understanding of God, or else my faith was not going to make it.

I couldn’t sing the happy songs at church anymore. I struggled to know how to pray, because the only way I had learned how was to “give thanks in all circumstances” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). But I couldn’t honestly give thanks anymore, so I didn’t know what to say to God. I was losing hope.

I went to counseling for a second day and murmured a complaint that the only part of the Bible I had been able to read over the past three years was the book of Psalms.

“You are resonating with the psalms,” Pete said, “because you need to lament, Esther. The psalms are full of laments.”

And so he gave me the dreaded homework assignment of recording my laments.

I hadn’t even heard of this word before. I needed Pete to define it and explain it to me. I still didn’t get it. I began quoting the familiar Scripture about not grumbling against God: “Do everything without grumbling or arguing” (Philippians 2:14), and it had been so ingrained in me as a child to not disrespect authority that I didn’t understand what it meant to be honest within a relationship of love. I went back to my hotel and lamented about lamenting. I am not about to complain about God, I thought. The last thing I needed was for Him to be upset with me.

I had spent more than two decades trying to convince everyone—trying to convince myself—that I had it together, that I had put my past behind me, that I was an overcomer.

Lament, in my mind, threatened to undo all that I had built in my life so far.

I left that counseling session feeling overwhelmed. Is this what depression feels like? I wondered. I was remembering from my high school days the exhaustion and hopelessness a person feels to get to this place.

By bedtime, I had no recorded laments to hand in the next day. I couldn’t finish the homework, and I really didn’t care. I was physically and emotionally drained, and I prayed to not wake up the next morning. I just didn’t think I had the strength to face all the pain I’d tried so hard to put behind me. I just wanted it to be over.

But I couldn’t sleep. My body, mind, and spirit were all exhausted, but I was wide-awake. Hour after hour, I tossed and turned. When 3:30 a.m. rolled around, I sat up in bed and said out loud, “God, why are You punishing me?”

I was angry. I rarely get angry, but I was furious.

“I am doing everything I can here. I have asked for Your help. I have told You I need You with me, and You’re nowhere to be found. What more do You want from me?”

I was speaking the language of lament right there, but I didn’t even realize it.

I poured out a torrent of grievances.

“Why won’t You listen to me?”

“All night long I’ve prayed, and I am not comforted.”

“It hurts me to even think of You!”

“I am overwhelmed!”

“I am looking for Your help, and You’re not even letting me sleep!”

“I am too upset to even pray!”

“What am I supposed to do?”

The lamenting wouldn’t stop.

“Are You ever going to give me a break?”

“Do You even love me?”

“What happened to Your promises for me? Have they failed? Have You forgotten to be gracious to me?”

“Where is Your compassion?”

Previously, I would have viewed this type of prayer as disrespectful or as an evidence of weak faith, but raw honesty was all I had left in me. I was worried that God’s hand and face would turn against me. If He hadn’t forgotten me yet, surely He would dislike me now.

But I didn’t have the strength to pretend anymore—not even with myself.

I lay back down, and the number 77 popped into my head. I had no idea why. I rolled over, and 77 flashed again in my mind’s eye. What on earth does that mean?

I sat up as if someone was talking to me and asked God what 77 meant. I opened my Bible and took a guess.

Psalm 77:1–10 (NLT).

“I cry out to God; yes, I shout. Oh, that God would listen to me!”

Well, that sounds familiar . . .

“When I was in deep trouble, I searched for the Lord. All night long I prayed, with hands lifted toward heaven, but my soul was not comforted.”

Didn’t I just say those exact same words?

“I think of God, and I moan, overwhelmed with longing for his help.”

This was me. I was overwhelmed. I was desperate for help.

“You don’t let me sleep. I am too distressed even to pray!”

This psalm was reading my mind.

“Has the Lord rejected me forever?”

“Will he never again be kind to me?”

“Is his unfailing love gone forever?”

“Have his promises permanently failed?”

Every single lament I just yelled out to God, every single one of them, was expressed by someone who was trying to follow God millennia before me!

“Has God forgotten to be gracious?”

“Has he slammed the door on his compassion?”

“This is my fate; the Most High has turned his hand against me.”

The psalmist questioned God’s goodness. The psalmist questioned God’s love. Whoever was lamenting in this psalm was asking the very same questions of God that I was asking. And, as it turns out, coming to the wrong conclusions.

Abilene Christian University professor of Old Testament Glenn Pemberton says, “Of the sixty chapters of lament in the Psalms, only nineteen mention thanksgiving or a thank-offering as the goal or eventual outcome of their prayer.”

Could the Word of God really speak like this? I was in my hotel room alone, yet I was experiencing God’s presence in a way I hadn’t in years. I believed His presence could be felt during powerful worship or in community, “where two or three gather” (Matthew 18:20)—but here, all alone, with nothing to offer Him but the cries of my heart, God drew near to assure me that every one of my laments was already recorded in His scroll. God wasn’t expecting my thank offering or my gratitude; He wanted my heart in its entirety.

You see, the envelopes we opened in Pete’s office revealed more than I could handle. Things were actually worse than I thought. My father was involved in more things than I ever realized, and the timelines my mother told me were incorrect. As I sat in that counseling office, I realized I was never legally emancipated. Even though I was told these things for years—of course believing it was true—it was not true. Falsehood does not become truth just because we have believed it for a long time. I felt the sharp pain all over again. The wounds felt fresh, and I wanted them to go away. This is why people don’t go back into their pasts, I thought to myself. It’s easier to numb ourselves than to face things head-on.

Yet just as God meets me in my laments, He was meeting me with this unfortunate news. He was tuning in. The timelines were revealing truth, and God desperately desires we get to truth, even though the process entails pain. As I let out my lament, it was giving me space to breathe in the truths of what really happened. I would breathe in truth and breathe out lament. I went back through the timelines, and more things became clear. My stepfather actually filed for divorce long before I ran down the stairs with those charts. That divorce wasn’t my fault either. I could see where the enemy was lying to me and keeping me in this cycle of guilt and blame for something that had nothing to do with me. Facing our pasts can be so very painful, yet more painful still is living out of the lies we come to believe as truth.

I saw that the writer found a way in the second half of Psalm 77 to turn his thoughts around completely. God knew how desperately I needed hope in His goodness and promise of deliverance. This psalm pointed to how my remembering could be a resource instead of a hindrance. Even though the psalmist was feeling despair, he chose to remember God’s goodness and His wonderful deeds.

Could I try the same thing? Could I find something to praise God about? The enemy wants us to stay stuck in despair, but God wants our laments to lead into a deeper recognition and understanding of Him.

I read in Psalm 77:11–20 (NLT):

  But then I recall all you have done, O Lord;
      I remember your wonderful deeds of long ago.
  They are constantly in my thoughts.
      I cannot stop thinking about your mighty works.
  O God, your ways are holy.
      Is there any god as mighty as you?
  You are the God of great wonders!
      You demonstrate your awesome power among the nations.
  By your strong arm, you redeemed your people,
      the descendants of Jacob and Joseph.

I remember Your wonderful deeds of long ago, I prayed. I remember how You rescued me.

I remember how You brought people into my life to help me.

I remember how You came to me in my darkest night.

I continued reading verses 16–20 (NLT):

  When the Red Sea saw you, O God,
      its waters looked and trembled!
      The sea quaked to its very depths.
  The clouds poured down rain;
      the thunder rumbled in the sky.
      Your arrows of lightning flashed.
  Your thunder roared from the whirlwind;
      the lightning lit up the world!
      The earth trembled and shook.
  Your road led through the sea,
      your pathway through the mighty waters—
      a pathway no one knew was there!
  You led your people along that road like a flock of sheep,
      with Moses and Aaron as their shepherds.

When I thought my fear and pain over my parents would take me down, God, You set me in families, I prayed. Even when my father was stalking me night and day, You kept me safe. You are an amazing God like that—You make a way, even through the darkest, most dangerous situations. You make a way for those You love.

Even I was shocked to hear my most painful memories turning to gratitude. Suddenly remembering became a tool for my healing, not another way to resent my circumstances. In those moments, my perspective changed, and I was looking up. The sun was rising now. I could see the streams of light spilling into my room through the blinds. For a moment, I was forgetting my dire circumstances and focusing again on God with hope. As He was showing me a new way to grieve, I found myself in the middle of the most honest—and the most intimate—conversation with God I’d had in years. Maybe He was bringing painful things from my past to the surface so I could have a new memory of Him healing me. Suddenly I could see what Pete was talking about, and why he wanted me to lament.

I didn’t understand why bad things kept happening in my life. But as it turns out, the Word of God understood me perfectly—giving voice to the thoughts I had denied for so long.

I was afraid to revisit the past I’d been trying to outrun for so long. I was afraid to voice the pain I’d been trying to put behind me. But going backward with God to bring His healing presence into our past is much better than moving forward without Him. And going backward with God is actually propelling us deeper into mystery and intimacy with Him. None of us move forward seamlessly and without pain. Sometimes we will need to walk backward in order to move forward more freely.

Lamenting is a painful process. But it is even more painful to live a life of pretended strength, of keeping God an arm’s length away because you’re shutting down the conversation with a “fine.”

I didn’t want to do that anymore. I was tired of pretending.

I was ready. I was finally ready to learn a new way.

Heavenly Father, I often have a hard time imagining that You hear me. Many times You feel far off from my shouts for help, and so far from saving me (Psalm 22:1). God, I cry out day and night, but You do not always answer (Psalm 22:2). Come quickly to me and be my strength (Psalm 22:19). When I lift up my soul to You, let me not be put to shame (Psalm 25:2). I am lonely and afflicted (Psalm 25:16). I am calling to You for help (Psalm 28:2). I look to no one else. Please show Your presence to me. Amen.

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Taken from No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending by Esther Fleece. Learn more at EstherFleece.com.


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Challenge: When It Seems Like There Are No Answers...

This article explores the reality that sometimes God won't relieve our situation but instead change our ability to stand within it.

Destabilizing Experiences: the Secret Place Psalms 91:1-16

My past experiences pastoring and leading a para church organization, as I do today, has led me to believe that regardless of how good things seem for people, we all have at least two or three potentially destabilizing experiences in life. A heightened sense of vulnerability, loss of control, and hopelessness are the main feelings in these times. 

Friends and family reach out to us but it isn’t enough. We read books, articles and see therapists, although very helpful and recommended, not quite enough either. These times in life try our souls and are reserved for God’s guidance and comfort. I have often wondered if these experiences are ordained for the Children of God. We try every remedy but yet there is more, and we find out the more is God!

David wrote of the “secret place” in Psalms. This is the place where God and the soul find each other. It is not a two bedroom apartment and there is no upgrade. We are in one room with God. There are no other roommates. 

Many years ago, I had experienced a very destabilizing setback. My life seemed forever changed for the worse, and although I had a lot of support, I could not find my way out emotionally. I struggled intermittently, for years. Then one day I was standing in my pew at church, felt the Spirit of God touch me in such a way that the hurt and loss that I had felt for so long, just vanished! I know this sounds a bit spooky but it happened. The situation and circumstances did not change but I was changed. It wasn’t until years afterwards that God gave back what was lost. There is a God, be patient and prayerful and all will be well! Get all the help you can, and from any place you can, but do not forget to wait upon Him. 

 

Blessings always, Joe Hutchison

 


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Challenge: Conflict Resolution Insight

We are all going to find ourselves in the middle of conflict. This article explores ways to manage conflict. If you are experiencing conflict, go over this article with your mentor to help set a goal towards resolution.

The following article is a reposting from CareLeader.org.

Common errors made in attempts at conflict resolution

May 9, 2017 by Dr. Jeff Forrey

 

 

You know it’s going to happen. You can’t be a shepherd and avoid mediating in conflicts. That much is certain. However, your responses to conflicts are affected by a variety of variables, which makes your role as mediator far less predictable. For example:

  • Personality variables (both yours and those involved in the conflict): Some people are shy; others are outgoing. Some people are attentive to details; others are not. Some people adjust easily to change; others are more rigid. All such differences factor into how conflicts are handled and resolved.
  • Perspective variables: Different people can understand a situation in very different ways. Defining a conflicted issue is not always straightforward.
  • Communication skills variables: Some people are better at verbalizing their concerns than others; some are better at reading body language than others. Not only does that make it more difficult for you to understand what’s going on, it also means some people will struggle with feeling understood.

This is just a sampling of factors that you might need to consider in your role as pastoral mediator. As is true of all multifaceted responsibilities, a variety of errors are possible. In this article, three Christian ministry experts discuss five common errors that can sabotage conflict resolution.

Avoiding conflict conversations

Zack Carter: The first error I would say is avoidance. So many times we think conflict shouldn’t happen. But it will! 

Lilly Park: Conflict resolution takes time and energy, and on top of that, it’s not usually pleasant. So, it’s easier to not deal with conflict. It’s easier to talk to other people about your conflict than picking up the phone or arranging a time to meet with that person.1

Terry Linhart: I’ve learned how important it is to say, “I’m angry.” When I was a kid and got mad at my parents, I used to just be quiet. But if we’re really angry inside, and we never express it in an appropriate way, that can be really detrimental.

  • “‘In your anger do not sin’: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Eph. 4:26).2

     

    “If you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift” (Matt. 5:23–24, emphasis added).3

“Mind-reading”

Zack Carter: Another problem is many times we try to “read the other person’s mind” during conflict. So instead of actively listening to what’s being said—actually hearing the words and sensing the emotions of the speaker—we fail to grasp what is being communicated to us. 

Lilly Park: I’m reminded of one person who shared that her friend had moved away, and there was a natural drift that occurred between them. This person assumed that her friend had found better friends, and she had moved on with her life. But eventually she met up with that friend, and they had a good talk together. She came to realize that she was completely wrong in her assumptions.

  • To answer before listening—
    that is folly and shame.…
    The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge,
    for the ears of the wise seek it out (Prov. 18:1315).

Overreacting

Terry Linhart: More problems are created when people overreact. In those cases, it’s important to let it defuse a little bit—to let the emotional fervor fade.

In terms of learning to do conflict well: I remember when my wife and I went through premarital counseling, we were taught that when you have a conflict, energy should be spent on [resolving the issue], not on tearing down the other person. We’ve been married thirty years now, and we’ve learned how to do that well. We can have really intense discussions but never lose the care and affection for each other in the same evening.

Zack Carter: Overreacting is a failure to empathize. In other words, when people are at fault, we make it clear they’re in the wrong through verbal criticism and nonverbal stonewalling.

  • “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Eph. 4:29).

     

    “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered” (Prov. 17:27).

Using text messages

Lilly Park: I think another common error is using text messages. To me, text messages—and emails—are not ideal because there are usually a lot of emotions involved in conflict and we use text messages as a way of protecting ourselves from the emotions. But doing that increases the potential for misunderstandings to occur.

Terry Linhart: Recently, when I had an issue with a friend because of a text message, we picked up the phone and talked about it right away; then later we met face-to-face to confirm a resolution.

  • “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Rom. 12:18, emphasis added). 

     

    “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Eph. 4:3, emphasis added).

Rehashing the past

Zack Carter: What about when we refer to past grievances even when these grievances have been dealt with in the past and forgiveness may have been extended? This actually communicates to people that we haven’t forgiven them for the past wrongdoings they’ve done against us. 

  • “Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends” (Prov. 17:9).

     

    “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.… Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace” (Col. 3:1315).

Conclusion

Paul’s desire for the Colossians,“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts,” should be the controlling factor in your relationships with fellow sinners, because your Lord lost His life to make this possible. Can there be a more compelling reason to avoid these kinds of errors in conflict resolution?

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Zack Carter is assistant professor of communication at Taylor University in Upland, IN.

Lilly Park is a biblical counselor, college instructor, and Council Board member of the Biblical Counseling Coalition.

Terry Linhart is professor of Christian ministries at Bethel College in Mishawaka, IN.

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Challenge: Who is asking you questions?

The Power of a Single Question

By Arrow Leadership on Jul 11, 2017 06:33 am

 

“What’s your greatest temptation?”

This question came to mind while praying for someone I was mentoring. Whether this question or another, great questions provide possibilities for awareness, growth and transformation. Specifically around the temptation question, I was convicted that this question is worth personal reflection for all Christ-followers and particularly critical for leaders.

 

Why the Temptation Question?
Scripture teaches that the enemy of God tempts God’s children. Remember his question to Eve in the garden, “Did God really say…?” (see Gen. 3). His tempting approach with Adam and Eve twisted truth, created confusion and communicated false promises.

In another example, Jesus was confronted with testing in the desert when “the tempter” came to him and said, “If you are the Son of God…” (Matt. 4:3). The enemy’s tempting approach was to hit Jesus when he was physically weak, relentlessly threatening his identity from three different angles. Each timeJesus resisted temptation by quoting Scripture. Finally Jesus authoritatively declared, “Away from me, Satan!” And, with that, “the devil left him, and angels came and attended him” (Matt. 4:10-11).

Again, Jesus faced a significant time of testing in the garden of Gethsemane, expressing anguish and modeling prayer. He prayed for himself and told his disciples to “get up and pray so that you will not fall into temptation” (Lk. 22:46). As temptation pressed in on Jesus, he pressed in with his Father through prayer. And as Jesus prayed, an angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him (see Lk. 22:41-43).

Are You Paying Attention?
Jesus faced testing and temptation. We will too.
Jesus resisted temptation. With God’s help, we can too.

Christ-followers can be assured of the following (see 1 Cor. 10:13):

  • Temptation is common to all;
  • God is faithful;
  • God will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear;
  • When tempted, God provides a way out so you can endure it.

Knowing where you’re most vulnerable to temptation can be helpful. This might be a blind spot or shadow side. It could be an unhealthy obsession, unguarded strength, unmet need or form of escape from reality. It may even be masquerading as something good, but is really reflecting something false. What’s your greatest temptation right now?

God does not promise to keep us from falling if we do not apply care, alertness and caution. But by paying attention with practices of prayer and Scripture, and inviting others to pray with us too, we can celebrate God’s amazing provision and protection as he ministers to us during times of temptation.

 

Who’s Asking You Great Questions?
Jesus was masterful at asking questions. His questions brought awareness, challenged people’s scripts and drilled down into the deepest places. His questions were often surprising and sometimes perplexing, but for those who were willing to engage, his questions proved to be revolutionary and liberating.

When we abide in an intimate relationship with Jesus and surround ourselves with wise advisors who ask great questions, we are positioning ourselves to experience freedom, transformation and fruitfulness.

On the journey with you,

Dr. Sharon Simmonds

Stay sharp with a collection of great questions in Arrow Leadership’s resource,best holiday essay by Dr. Steve Brown. [essay in spanish]

 

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Mentor

Mentoring Moments Bible Verses ESV

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WELCOME

We are so glad you are choosing to invest in the life of another. Usually, when we invest it comes out of our resources.

Mentoring with regards to a spiritual walk comes out of the willingness to defer yourself to what it means to listen.

You are listening both to the Mentoree and the impressions of God, specifically the Holy Spirit, in your heart.

When this happens, both of you experience God and each other in incredible new ways.

So where do I start? Each of the four statements below are also links to a resource page designed to help you grow

so that you can be used by God in a special way in the life of another!

What it Means to be a Mentor

A Mentor listens...

A Mentor asks good questions...

A Mentor helps identify growth goals...

A Mentor keeps the spiritual piece at the center...


Understanding Your Shape as a Mentor

This year we will be expanding on our support of you as a mentor by helping you to explore how God has uniquely designed you. For if you understand who God made you to be,  you will be better prepared in helping others to discover who God made them to be.  Saddleback Church helped to consolidate some of the keys aspects of the individual in this easy to remember acronym, S.H.A.P.E.

    Spiritual Gifts

    Heart Desires

    Abilities

    Personality

    Experiences

In the next few months we will be helping you to acquire a better understanding of each of these key areas so that you can fulfill your role as mentor with confidence and a sense of God given purpose.

And along the way, if we find a good article or video on mentoring, we will make it available in through resource pages and blogs. We want to encourage the teachable spirit that will one day prepare you to mentor mentors.

Click the following links below to download your own Shape for Life Profile Worksheet and Shape for Spiritual Gifts.

 

        Understanding my S.H.A.P.E.    

        Spiritual Gift Assessment              

        The Conversation of a Lifetime_Category: Listening and Asking Questions

        SHAPE for Life Profile                

        SHAPE Spiritual Gifts - October 

        Abilities - Love It Like It  

        SHAPE Heart & Abilities - November

        Experiences Worksheet

        SHAPE_Personality-Experiences - December


 

Here is an example of a TED Talk focusing on how mentoring can change your community!

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Mentoring Moments – (ESV verses)

 

 


 

 

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9.19.17 Youth News

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September 19, 2017

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WC YOUTH WEDNESDAY

6:30-8:00PM, STUDENT AREA

8-8:30PM – Hang out time

All Middle and High School students are invited to join us at the church for games, snacks, fun, hang out, and worship. Join us as we study the Gospel of John!

Bring a friend!

Questions? Contact Ceri at cerif@westminster.org 

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HIGH SCHOOL SNL (Saturday Night Live)

90’s Dodgeball

September 23rd, 6:00-9:00PM, Gym

High Schoolers are invited for a night of PIZZA, dodge ball and other games. Dress in 90’s clothes!

CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!

COST: $5 for dinner

Questions? Contact Ceri at cerif@westminster.org

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MEDICAL & LIABILITY FOR MIDDLE AND HIGH SCHOOL ONLINE 

Medical and Liability forms are now done online. They will be good for the time your student is in a particular ministry or if their information changes.

Here is when a new form is needed:

  • When a student enters a new ministry (Middle School to High School)  
  • If your insurance changes
  • If there are address changes
  • If your emergency contact changes
  • If a student’s medical information changes 

If you haven’t already, please take a few minutes to fill out the new form. Forms are required for all activities in which students participate, both on and off campus.

CLICK HERE to find the form. 

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MARK YOUR CALENDARS

September

15   MS FNF

23   HS SNL

 

October

22   Youth Parent Meeting

27   MS FNF

28   HS SNL

 

November

5      Youth Leader Meeting

18   HS Service Project

22   Thanksgiving Eve Service (Sanctuary)

 

December

3      Youth Parent Meeting

8&9  Christmas Pops

13   Youth Christmas Party

24   Christmas Eve Services 10:30, 4, 7, 11

31   New Year’s Eve Service in CLC 9, 10:45

9.22.17 It's Friday but Sunday's Coming.... (Extended Edition)

Dear Westminster Family:

 

We have some sad news.  Mark Finley, the husband of our Minister of Worship, Arlene, suddenly and unexpectedly went home to be with the Lord.  He suffered a heart attack on Thursday morning.  Here is Pastor Laurey's email to the choir.

 

I am writing to you with a deep spirit of heaviness.  As many of you already know, Mark Finley passed away earlier this morning.  It would appear that he suffered a heart attack and the first responders were unable to revive him.  While this is a shock to us all, as you can imagine, the lives of Arlene, Vincent and family have been completely overturned.  If ever they needed the love and affection of our choir family it is now.  Arlene is returning from a conference in Southern California this afternoon and I will talk with her again this evening. 

  

Today reminds us that each moment we are given is a gift to be cherished.  “Weeping may endure for a season, but joy will come in the morning.”  During this season of loss, we will hold this dear family in all our prayers.

 

This Sunday we will begin a new set of messages in the "Love Where You Live" series.  Over the next few weeks we will focus on what it means to "Give Where You Live."

 

The topic of "giving" is at the heart of who we are as followers of Jesus.  I recently came across this revealing statement..."More than income, age, race, or education, faith predicts giving and volunteering....American Christians are the core reason why Americans can be described as 'generous'....Christians – not just nominal Christians, but believing, practicing Christians – are the backbone of virtually all charitable causes in America."  The truth of this statement has surfaced again as Christians have been challenged to meet the needs of the people who have felt the full impact of hurricanes, floods, earthquakes, and fires over the past few weeks.

 

My message this week will be based on the Apostle Paul's encouragement to the Corinthian Church to get involved in an offering for famine relief (II Corinthians 8:1-12). He challenges people in the Church to give not out of obligation based on a narrow set of rules, but freely based on the grace they have received.  The New Testament does not teach a doctrine of tithing (i.e. The mandatory giving of 10 percent of one's income).  Nor does Paul define what constitutes giving generously.  He does not even provide a target number or general guidelines.  The only rule is to give freely and generously as an expression of our continuing trust in God's grace.  Paul simply assumes that believers will give all they can to meet as many needs as they can in order to glorify God as much as they can. 

 

Our choir will join us this week to lead in our worship and we will have a special presentation by Matt Whitney, our artist in residence.  Matt has taken the 215 "path cards" that we gave him and blended them into two fascinating pieces of artwork.  You will not want to miss this presentation. 

 

I look forward to sharing this time with you all.

 

Pastor Gary

 

THIS WEEKEND’S EVENTS: September 22 & 23

CELEBRATE RECOVERY – Fridays, 7:00-9:00 PM, Fireside Room: Childcare provided. Contact Neal at 425-747-1461425-747-1461, ext. 147 or WestminsterCR@gmail.com.

MEN'S SMALL GROUP BIBLE STUDY - Saturdays at 7:30-9:00 AM, Room 307: We are a group of guys who enjoy a time of studying God's Word and sharing life together on Saturday mornings.

 

THIS SUNDAY: September 24

WELCOME CENTER – Visit our Welcome Center in the foyer for visitor information and warm hospitality. Limited sermon CDs and Our Daily Bread devotionals are available in the Library.

BREW - Sundays, 9:00 - 11:00 AM, Foyer: Is this your first time here? Stop by our café to enjoy a complimentary coffee. We look forward to meeting you!

LOVE WHERE YOU LIVE ART REVEAL - Sunday, September 24, both morning services: Local artist, Matt Whitney, unveils his "Love Where You Live" path card artwork.  You won't want to miss it!

 

WHAT IN THE WORLD LUNCH - Sunday, September 24, 12:15-2:00 PM, Atrium: Join us for lunch and learn how the Sandelius family loves where they live in South Asia. Hear how our Westminster family loves and serves where we live locally. Suggested donation $5. Contact Meghan at meghanl@westminster.org

 

UPCOMING EVENTS

ALPHA: EXPLORE FAITH - ASK ANYTHING - Sundays, through - December 3, 6:00-8:15 PM, Westminster Community Life Center: Enjoy dinner and community in friendly table groups. Hear an engaging talk that will inspire conversations about the big questions of life. No pressure, no charge. Childcare available. Contact: Sylvia at sylviar@westminster.org

 

TUESDAY MORNING WOMEN'S BIBLE STUDY- Tuesdays, 9:25 AM, CLC: Details of the 7 elective selections are available on the Women's or Events pages of the church website. Cost: Unless otherwise indicated - $45 for course/materials, Childcare $45 for 1 child, $65 for 2 or more. Register online at www.westminster.org/Events Questions? Contact Jenny at jennyr@westminster.org

 

WEDNESDAY EVENING WOMEN’S BIBLE STUDY - Wednesdays, 6:45 PM, Fireside Room: In the Fall we are studying Experiencing God by Henry & Richard Blackaby. The cost is $25, $15 if you already have the workbook. Register online at www.westminster.org/Events

 

THE GAP STUDY FOR MEN WITH PASTOR GARY - Thursdays, 6:30 AM, Fireside Room: The study this fall the study will focus on Jesus' initial followers...12 Ordinary Men.

 

MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR DICK WALSH - Saturday, September 30, 1:00 PM, Sanctuary:  Please keep Dick's family in your prayers.

 

WOMEN IN THE WORKPLACE DINNER - Thursday, October 5, 6:30 PM, CLC:  Did you know God cares about your daily work? Please join us for this special dinner event to celebrate 20 years of WIW!!  Cost: $20 per person. Register at www.westminster.org/Events. Questions? Contact Jenny at jennyr@westminster.org

 

MISSIONS FEST SEATTLE 2017 Friday October 13, 9:00 AM-9:00 PM; Saturday, October 14, 8:00 AM-9:00 PM: From Nations to Neighbors: Loving my community - Transforming our world. MissionsFest informs and excites Christians about what God is doing around the world for the purpose of involving them in the Harvest. Get more information at www.missionsfestseattle.org

 

SERVICE OPPORTUNITIES

RECYCLE AND REPURPOSE!! This summer your old sheets could become part of a beautiful handmade quilt by the Helping Hands ministry. You may drop off your donated sheets at the Welcome Center. Be sure to label them for Helping Hands. Questions? Contact Marilyn at baxtermarilyn1@gmail.com

TALKTIME: AN EASY WAY TO REACH BEYOND - Thursday, 6:30 PM, Atrium: Serve as an ambassador to our intercultural community. Help guests from around the world practice speaking English over dinner and guided conversation. Questions? Contact Mark Pedrin at markp@westminster.org

REACH BEYOND! WORK WITH YOUTH Be a middle or high school leader and impact lives for God. Contact Ceri at cerif@westminster.org

 

RESOURCES/OPPORTUNITIES

GROW GROUPS Various times & locations throughout the week: These groups meet in many sites and aim to be places where you can GROW with others. No matter where you are, there is a Grow Group that can help you take your next step in community. Visit www.westminster.org/belong for more information.

COUNSELING We offer counseling with our counseling interns, and assist in referrals to professional Christian counselors. Questions? Contact Holly at 425-747-1461 ext. 129 or hollyp@westminster.org.

PRAYER - If you would like to be prayed for, please see someone down front at the end of the service. Questions? Holly at hollyp@westminster.org

BAPTISM – If you would like more information on what it means to be baptized, or about the course itself, you can email Pastor Matt at mattc@westminster.org

WEEKLY GIVING

As of 9/17/17 (For the year ending 5/31/18)

Expectation for the Week $56,241

General Giving for the Week* $41,756

Expectation to Date $820,360

General Giving to Date* $795,885

Annual Expectation $3,360,000

*General giving includes weekly and non-designated special gifts.

 

NEXT CHAPTER GIVING

Original Project Cost $22,000,000

Payments to Date $17,851,000

Current Mortgage Balance $4,149,000

MEDIA
Visit our video channel for various videos and highlights. You can view these on our Vimeo channel or through the Westminster Facebook Page and share them to your own social networks. Our hope is to present the Gospel in shorter, more conversational videos that you can use throughout the week in addition to our sermon videos. http://vimeo.com/channels/594092

WESTMINSTER MOBILE APP
Includes audio messages, video announcements, calendar, special events, publications, newsfeeds, maps, ESV Bible with audio & reading plan, and more! Available for
Android, iOS and Windows Phone

 

 

 

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